The Dots We Don’t Join: A Midlife Wake-Up Call

Everything Felt Like Too Much

I sat at my desk at work, head in my hands, mind completely blank. I couldn’t remember the name of someone I’d worked with for years. My words slipped away mid-sentence. I was stuttering. My confidence felt like it was slipping through my fingers.

Was I losing my mind? Was it just normal aging? I kept kidding myself that if I ignored it and powered on, it wasn’t really happening.

The Quiet Storm We Don’t Talk About

But it was happening—and I couldn’t control it. I went from being a chilled-out parent to a panicked, frazzled mum battling weight gain and a body I barely recognised.

Like so many women, I kept my head down and cracked on—not thinking, just surviving. Because that’s what we’re taught to do, right? We are warriors. We survive childbirth, multitask like it’s an extreme sport, and do it all on little sleep. We are women.

But sometimes we don’t even realise how many changes we’re living through. We proudly put on our big-girl pants and keep going… never joining the dots.

But it’s Menopause Awareness Month in October: Time to Name It

For decades, menopause has been taboo, spoken about in whispers, as if it were some shameful decline. But it’s not a decline—it’s a transition.  Whilst the tides are changing there's still so much to do to empower women.  This month is an opportunity to make this change- start the conversations ladies. 

Awareness is the antidote. Awareness is power.

When you start naming what’s happening, you start owning it. Confusion shifts to clarity. Facts meet feelings. That’s when everything begins to change and the weight lifts from us.

A New Story for Midlife

When my husband gently said he thought I might need some help, I didn’t want to hear it. I felt shocked. Hurt. Angry. But deep down, I knew he was right—and that moment became the turning point.

If you’re reading this and life feels like everything is “too much,” or “something isn’t quite right,” don’t just keep battling. Those moments of brain fog, sudden mood swings, anxiety, heavy or irregular periods, unexpected weight gain, or even dry, itchy skin—they’re not random. They’re signs your body is trying to tell you something, dots waiting to be joined.

Start noticing them. Track them. Ask questions. Reach for support. Be honest with yourself.

Because there’s so much you can do to empower yourself, shift how you feel, and create the future you want.  And when you do, you’re on the other side of it, you’re on the path to changing the negative to the positive, the stuck to the thriving, the overwhelm to clarity, and the “not enough” to a life that finally feels full, vibrant, and truly yours.

This Is Not the End — It’s Your Becoming

I truly believe this—and it’s why I’m so passionate about coaching women through it. This chapter of life can be Mother Nature’s gift: a wake-up call to reconnect with yourself, reclaim your energy, and step into your boldest, truest self. To be honest. To grow stronger. Braver. More you.

Sometimes endings are just beginnings in disguise. 

“It reminds me of the song that’s been playing everywhere lately —Djo’s End of Beginning. Its opening line, ‘This is the beginning…’, feels like a personal anthem for this stage of life: the moment when confusion shifts to clarity, when overwhelm starts to give way to possibility.

This Menopause Awareness Month, pause. Check in with yourself. Ask: What dots am I not connecting? What support do I deserve?

If any of this resonates, here is your invitation to step into Pause & Power: 7-Day Reset. Discover simple, powerful practices to help you thrive, not just survive in peri. Landing straight to your inbox for you to slot into your day when works for you, if you join in October.

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